We used to pass by an empty house every day on our way to work. Our family of four needed a home after moving seven times in two years. One day, we decided to take a closer look. The house was in terrible shape—leaky roof, condensation running down the windows, mouldy walls and carpets, and sagging ceilings supported by makeshift wooden planks. Despite its condition, we saw potential in the house's former beauty, its lovely patterned glass doors and spacious rooms and decided to buy it. We replaced the roof, fixed the interior damage, rebuilt the garage into an extra bedroom and office, and eliminated the dampness. We enjoyed that family home for many years. This true story serves as a poignant metaphor for our inner condition shaped by past experiences. The truth is that some aspects of us need to be taken apart and looked at carefully and then re-framed and rebuilt. All too often we avoid the hard work required, finding temporary fixes instead. Just as we wouldn't rebuild a house over mould or without fixing the roof, we must not ignore unresolved emotional pain from our past. Is it time to take a deeper look?